Freedom of Choice
Whenever people hear this term, "Freedom of Choice" they often think they are free to choose their religion, sexuality, or the right to have an abortion. It comes from the assumption that we are given permission by our legal rights to have a say, or choice in these matters and that no one can take them away from you.
What I'm taking about is so much more powerful than something that was given to you, but something that you have within your reach, often with just a slight breath, and its yours. This freedom is the freedom of thought, and the ability to choose thoughts that empower you and thereby provide change instantaneously. I offer this advice to any situation you may find yourself in and I swear, miracles do occur.
Let me give you some examples with how powerful this way of thinking is. Say for instance you are having problems with a co-worker. Perhaps this person has been driving you crazy on a daily basis and you find yourself using up all of your energy talking about how annoying this person is, or how hurtful they are to you, or how you would, more than anything, want them to GO AWAY! I'm sure we have all had situations like this. There are a lot of personalities out there, but to be quite honest, it is these annoying ones that provide for the best practice in this new way of thinking that will make you love this person thereby releasing your own discomfort with them.
To do this, all you need to do is change your perspective on this person. I often look at these challenging people as people who deserve even more of my love. I see them as the sad child who didn't get the love and attention that they deserved as a child. I see their mean and dishearten behavior as a call for help and a cry for someone, anyone, to love them. I know this may be hard to do at first, but once you do, the most important part of all of this is you will be a changed person. You take away this person's power thereby helping you be happier in your job.
I also offer this advice for relationships. I have a lot of friends who struggle in their relationships and have built up resentments against their partner for not being up to their standards in some way. The best way to get beyond this, and surprisingly get the other person to be a better partner too, is to find at least one attribute that you love about this person and really feel, imagine, visualize and milk this thought until you start to only feel loving thoughts towards this person.
I learned this from Abraham-Hicks, who is one of the greatest teachers out there, who says when we feel good thoughts towards another, the others person's behavior softens and reflects how we feel about them. I have done this with patients who were notoriously difficult and grumpy. Instead of going into the room with an attitude that they are difficult, I would imagine them in need of love, so that's exactly what I give. In fact, I once got a dozen roses from a patient who all other nurses found to be difficult. But with me, because I treated him strictly from a place of love, I got roses (he was married, so don't get any ideas!).
This freedom of thought is one of the most powerful tools that anyone can use. No one can control your thoughts, but you have a choice on what thoughts you allow in your mind. You will be amazed with all of the greatness that comes your way when you approach everyone in your life with this way of thinking. The freedom is within. Absolutely nobody can take that from you.