Love Without Fear
"Be foolishly in love, because love is all there is"- Rumi
Being in love is one of the most intoxicating feelings out there. We were born to love and genetically wired to feel this state of bliss when we meet someone who reflects this pure emotion. Yet so many of us run away from it in fears that it will just go away. We make every excuse in the book to protect our hearts and whenever the slightest sign of things going wrong in love, we learn that to love and be loved is just not a safe venture.
Why else are there so many songs out there woefully singing about the tragedy with love? We all want to feel this intoxicating emotion, yet in most circumstances we sabotage it before it even begins. I know for me, after a failed marriage, dead-end dates and love affairs, I have been a bit skittish of taking the love plunge. But my heart has its own agenda and in spite of my mind protesting its naivety, I push forward opening up to the bliss of true love.
One of the best and well known experts on love is the infamous Sufi poet Rumi. He lived his life from a place of pure faith in love and all of its wonders. I'm sure he too had his failures in romance, yet his faith in its beauty persisted. He didn't let fear keep him from moving forward and loving completely.
Fear, I believe is what keeps us from opening up to love. As Rumi so brilliantly said, "Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have build against it." I would often get depressed that love would never find it way to my door step. When these thoughts took over I would find myself in a deep depression. Being in that state of mind, I would definitely keep love at bay. So I learned to act with faith and trust. Now my door is open and the love is starting to flow in.
So the next time that little bug sits on your shoulder blabbing its doubts your way, just hold to the truth that love is yours to have and own. You just need to be open, ready and willing. Sit with the excitement, discomfort and whatever physical sensations that arise when you feel this blissful place of love. Then allow your faith to be your resting post. Knowing that each and every situation is of value, but until you allow it to come through, you may never know what kind of jems sit behind the door.
"Close your eyes, fall in Love, stay there."- Rumi