Say it Loud, Say it Proud
As young children we live in a world where there is no filter. I can't tell you how many times my kids go up to someone and say exactly what is on their minds. Now as their filter police, I get that sometimes we need to put a lid on it and reserve the private conversations behind closed doors. Yet at the same time, these young beings are only saying what they see. And in all of their innocence I envy their world of honesty.
Now, I'm not saying we shouldn't speak with respect and show our best selves. But I find too often we shy away from showing our true colors in fear that we won't be liked. We learn at a young age that fitting in means conforming to others rules and signing up for popularity contest. We have all been bullied and knocked down to the ground for speaking our minds. Unfortunately that habit of playing it small bleeds into our adult lives. So it is no wonder so many of us are afraid to be real and speak our truth without that annoying filter.
In Brene Brown's book, "The Gifts of Imperfection" she shares that wholehearted people are ones who wear their heart on their sleeves and aren't afraid to show their imperfections. In her research she found that when we come from an authentic place we are more accepted by others and in fact are more likable.
I know for me, when I teach, I often have my students tell me they appreciate my realness and honesty about my imperfections. In fact when I am real they can better relate to me. I share all of me, and have learned to speak my truth, even if I feel ashamed and ugly for what that may be. Often when I do share, others have the opportunity to bring forth their own shame and feel normalized for being human.
We are all fallible beings. We have all said, did and acted in ways that may have put us in a darkened light. I know for me, I wish I could rewrite part of my life. Or at the very least take a big eraser to it and make it magically disappear. But when we speak our truth with love and compassion, especially for ourselves, we will begin to see ourselves as wholehearted and loveable.
It's time to stand tall and speak from your heart and not your head. When you do, you will be closer to God and all of your deepest truths. Love will pour in and compassionate souls will be in the wake to help you make it ashore.
Trust me, nobody likes a perfect pants. Only real ones. So speak with your voice of truth and don't let anyone tell you to dim your light. You are perfect as who you are. And the world needs more of you. Every last imperfect part of you.