Since I became single over four years ago after a long marriage, I have found myself going through every emotion in the book when it comes to dating. At first I embraced it because for the first time since I was 15 I was single and with that came a new found freedom that I had yet to experience. But I quickly found that the playing field was quite different and although my two previous relationships were easy to get, I now hit the road of "where are all the good men" and "why do I keep meeting the same men that just so happen to be like the ones I had gotten rid of?"
I remember telling my therapist right after my ex-husband and I separated that I was sure to be in another relationship in six months time. Oh, how wrong I was! But thank my lucky stars I hadn't found "Mr Right" yet. The Universe had better plans for me, and it was because of me wanting to find true love that I learned about the Law of Attraction (LoA). In fact the Law of Attraction has become such a passion for me, I now facilitate a large LoA group and use the teachings for all areas of my life. My life has lead me on a path far better then I had ever imagined. And oddly enough, I still haven't met the man of my dreams. But I will... Oh I will.
So, I ask myself, how can I teach about finding one's soulmate if I hadn't met my own? I have be teaching the LoA for almost two years and have avoided the subject. Then it finally occurred to me that I'm teaching the feeling of true love by way of visualizations, affirmations, vision boards, Feng Shui and other useful tools, and have proven that I am still happy now, even though he hasn't arrived yet.
I know he will come and it is not up to me to figure out the divine timing. The only thing I can do is be happy now and trust that my openness and undying belief in his arrival will deliver him safely into my arms. All I need to do is be energetically receptive, happy and fulfilled now.
Therefore, I have come up with some brilliant steps that will keep all of you out there positive, receptive and happy with all that you have right now. He/she will come. But if you are in a state of resistance, your energy may be inadvertently keeping him/her away.
Steps to manifesting true love:
Step 1: Write a list of all the qualities that you are looking for in a partner. Imagine how it feels to have this person in your life and make it as visual as you can. Make sure at the end of your list you add "or something better". This way you are not limited.
Step 2: Ask yourself what will you bring to the relationship and what awesome qualities can you offer him or her. None of us are perfect, but I guarantee that your soulmate will love you for exactly as you are. Now its important for you to love who you are too! Self love goes a long way, and it puts you in a good energetic space to send out that beacon call.
Step 3: Make it real in your mind and the rest will follow. I'm a big believer in the power of visualizations, vision boards, affirmations and anything else that makes you believe without a doubt that your soulmate is on their way. In fact I listen to a daily meditation that places me in energetic reach of him, and when I'm done listening I can actually feel him close to me. Believing that this person is real takes a bit of imagination, but if it makes you feel great, than its working! If anything, it puts you in a state of least resistance, and that is how the magic happens.
Step 4: Release it to the Universe. How it's supposed to happen is none of your business! We tend to get in our own way and when we don't see results our Ego takes over in overdrive and tells us with its 'know it all' sort of voice..."told you he wasn't coming". So stand strong in your belief and if in doubt, grab a book that will keep you believing (I like "Meant to Be Miraculous: Stories to Inspire a LIfetime of Love" by Joyce and Barry Vissell.)
We all deserve a love that helps us grow and be the best that we were born to be. I for one choose to believe in this great love and I will continue to do so until the day he arrives on my door step. In the mean time, I'm having an imaginary relationship with him, and oh my, what fun we are having!