There are moments in time that no one will forget. The events of 911, the Holocost, the Vietnam war... to name a few. The recent events in Connecticut where children were innocently taken from this world, has left a deep scar on all who have heard about this event. I know for me, I have two kids who could have very easily been there... but they weren't. I have not even learned about the details and I refuse to listen to any since the heart break is just too much to bare.
So I write this, not to keep bringing this horrible event up again ( I would prefer to never speak of it again), but to instill the importance of turning this event to bring good to this world, and not fear. Of course we could all take our kids out of public facilities and lock them safely in our house. Believe me, the next time my kids go to school they are going to get so many hugs and kisses they will have to peel me off of them! But I choose to not let this tragedy from keeping me, or them, from living.
The hardest, but really most important thing we can all do to get past this, is to find it in our hearts to forgive. Now, this goes against every cell in my body right now, but in truth I know that by forgiving, I no longer give this event power over my life.
Forgiveness is so important. Any and all events in our lives could be healed, if only we forgave. The power of forgiveness is not to release the guilty parties, but to release the control they have over our hearts. Forgiving allows our hearts to heal. Forgiving allows our hearts to open more. Forgiving allows us to soften, be kinder and offer our love to a much greater extent because not only do we understand suffering, we realize that even those who do the crime are suffering too.
One of my fears right now is that peoples suffering around this event will keep them from living. What a tragedy that would be. Revenge is not an option here, nor is there anyone to punish, since the killer died himself. Revenge is filled with anger, which only holds your heart hostage, not being able to offer any good. This is why our focus as society as a whole, should be to come together through love and forgiveness.
I know for me, whenever I'm feeling down, I feel better if I'm helping others. Perhaps that's why I love being a nurse so much. No matter what mood I'm in, I feel better the second I go in a patients room. It gives my life purpose to help others. So, I want to instill to anyone reading this, to take this tragedy and make more of an effort to give to others.
My Christmas wish is to have everyone make an effort to do one kind act to someone today. My wish is to let this tragedy not go down in vein but to produce a passion in all people to take charge of their well being by realizing that love is really the only truth and forgiving, no matter how hard that may be, will allow more room in our hearts to keep other tragedies like this from happening again.
I truly believe that those who's lives were lost will be guiding us through our suffering and offering us ways to be better, more loving humans. It is our nature to be so. We now all have little angels smiling down on us for living the way we are supposed to live... through love.