If someone were to tell you you have two options- 1. Be happy and fulfilled or 2. Be unhappy and unfulfilled. Which one would you choose? So why is it so often we keep picking the second choice? We don't do this on a conscious level. Its not like you say, "I think today I want to be miserable." "I am going to do everything possible to ruin my day then think about how bad my tomorrow and my yesterday are/were." What if I told you that just by having these voices in our head make our days go bad.
Once this realization that my negative or positive attitude had an effect on my day became apparent to me, I started to notice that those people who came from a negative place, did in fact bring negative situations to them. Let me give you an example.
Say for instance, you stub your toe. The next thing you know, your cursing and stomping around pissed off about stubbing your toe. Then you drop the items your holding all the while continuing this conversation of being angry and frustrated that your day is already off to a bad start. Then, as you drive to work, you hit EVERY light! Its almost as if the "bad luck God" is using you as a practical joke.
Everyday I see how an attitude effects ones life. Some may call it bad luck, but I would argue that if you, for one month changed your conversation and kept your mind filled with positive feedback, read positive and uplifting things and surround yourself with positive people, you WILL see a difference in your life. I have experienced this first hand. I have found my relationships have blossomed and almost every conversation I have with someone ends with praise for how much the conversation meant to both of us.
I also see the difference at work. Recently I received flowers from a patient who to all the other nurses was grumpy and difficult to work with. As the charge nurse, I make it a point to help all the nurses, therefore I spent some time in his room helping. In this short period of time, I had a brief conversation about how I always buy myself flowers. He thought that was obsure and said that "Nobody should EVER buy their own flowers!". So one night when I came into work there was a dozen long stem roses waiting for me from this patient (and his wife- so don't get any ideas!). Some may say that it was my charming personality (which I will take credit for, thank you :)), but the truth is, it's all because I practice on a consistent basis an attitude filled with a positive and uplifting life source. Try it, and you will see!
Tips on starting a positive life style:
Every morning for at least 21 days (for some reason this is the magical number, according to Louise Hay- the Queen of Positive affirmations), write down what you are grateful for. It is an uplifing exercise that anyone can do. You'll be surprised with how much there is to be greatful for! For starters, be greatful that you can breathe!
Feed yourself positive information
Even if you just read 10 pages a day from a positive book, again, for at least 21 days, you will see a difference. Check out www.hayhouse.com. Its loaded with amazing books that feed your mind a wealth of feel good stuff!
The power of the word is more than you think, especially when you say them out loud. I use them everyday, and have seen amazing changes occur! A good resource: www.louisehay.com.
Surround yourself with positive people
Its also important to distance yourself from people who aren't positive. In fact getting rid of people in your life who are not "good" for you is the most loving thing you can do for yourself.
Know that life will always have ups and downs. But with a good attitude you can cope with the bad and you will find yourself thanking the universe for giving you these difficult situations. True growth comes from our stuggles. It's our positive attitudes that help us grow. Shine on. And stay positive!